Scenario: Nerve Hit

As an action learning coach, how would you handle the following situation: An extraordinarily deep question is asked. The responder sits quietly for a minute than begins to weep.  

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    Jonah Fabul

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    As an action learning coach, I will take a mental note of that powerful question and use it during the reflection. I will observe carefully and try to understand what she/he will share with the group. I will provide support by handing over a tissue to the member and ask if he/she is ready to answer the question or needs more time. The session will continue if the member is willing to answer the question. If more time is needed, I will remind the group to practice their leadership competency and ask any from the group to ask the next question.

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    Rosana Nucci

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    I would give the responder a minute and then intevene by saying “Do you need another minute? do you think we should continue?”. If the respondent is willing to continue I’d ask the group who has the next question. If not, I’d ask the group “Did you notice how powerful the questions we asked are? XX feels we should not continue. How do we want to address that?” The group is likely to respect the respondent’s wish, so we’d move on to the reflection.

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    Andrew Christopher

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    This depends on the type of personalities I’m working with. Most times, if this happened, the other group members would be supportive and willing to keep the responder a moment, which is my instinct. The responder need the space to feel those feelings because they’ve probably been pent up for awhile.

    If TOO much time passed, I would maybe give a subtle prompt to the group to help them acknowledge the value of asking great questions and then maybe prompt them to form a norm for how they want to respond to the impact of asking great questions (e.g., group takes a break, tables the discussion).

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    Myrte van Grieken

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    The calm to let the crying be the answer is already very valuable.
    Then it is up to her whose sad to give the answer. Very often by giving space the answer comes, or does someone who is familiar with this person ask a reassuring question.
    Recognition for her emotions is powerfull for course of the session.

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